You should get your life together at all costs and find someone else if your partner constantly makes you feel horrible about yourself.
Most of the time, the fear of being alone outweighs the desire for happiness, which is why individuals stay in relationships longer than they should, despite how bad we feel about it.
The man was pushed past the point of no return in this story, which is incredibly difficult to do in a horrible relationship.
He wrote in a forum to inform everyone of his predicament, and thousands of people who had read it swiftly offered him help.
This person wrote:
On August 3rd, my stepdaughter will tie the knot. She and her mother (I say her mother since we are not married, despite having lived together for ten years) have spent the most of the last six months preparing the wedding.
Last December, my stepdaughter received her degree from the university. Despite being a state university, the cost of her education was covered by me and came to $40,000. She has been residing with us since graduating from college and does not currently hold a job. When she graduated from high school, I also got her a car so she could drive herself to and from school.
Her absentee father would occasionally reappear in her life, and she would swoon over him. She still loves him and wants him in her life even though he hasn’t paid a thing toward her education or any child support, even though this is my girlfriend’s fault because c.s. wasn’t covered by the settlement. He stays long enough to leave town and break a commitment he made her, hurting her heart.
Maximum capacity for the wedding venue is 250. Given that I was paying for everything, I gave them a list of the 20 guests I wanted to invite. They assured me there was no issue and that they would handle it. I informed them that they will receive an invitation and to save the date. I asked a friend who was on this list I ran into on Saturday at the golf course whether he was coming. He informed me he was not invited. He informed me that he just received an announcement—not an invitation. He showed it to me from his rear seat, where it was also probably six months’ worth of mail. My name was nowhere to be found, and it was merely an announcement. Not my name, but her dad’s and her mother’s.
The fact that NONE of my list of twenty “made the cut” for the final guest list because “250 people is very tight” caused me to get into a pretty large argument with my girlfriend. I was furious, but there wasn’t much I could do because the significant individuals in my life had already been hurt. My GF stated, “If some people didn’t rsvp yes, I might be able to get a couple people in.” But in my perspective, that is the biggest slap in the face. I therefore had a hot Saturday.
We hosted a Sunday dinner yesterday with the family of the future in-laws, as well as us and a special guest, the “Real Dad.” My stepdaughter made the announcement that her “Real Dad” would finally be able to walk her down the aisle at her wedding during this small dinner. A chorus of “Oh how great” and “How wonderful” responses followed this.
I don’t believe I’ve ever felt so outraged and so mistreated. I was trembling. I took a moment to collect myself because, in all honesty, I wasn’t sure if I would cry, start punching people, or both. When I knew I would be able to talk, I stood up and said, “I’d like to make a toast.” Although I can’t recall all I said, the general idea was as follows:
“Let’s toast,” you say. Glasses being hit by spoons echo through my years. For the past 10 years, it has been an immense pleasure for me to be a member of this family. Oh, very adorable. “At this point in my life, I feel I owe the bride and groom a debt of gratitude because they have brought something very significant to my attention.” The two smiled assuredly. My place in this family is not what I once believed it to be, they have shown me. The faces in the room are now starting to show signs of uncertainty and disbelief. “Although I originally imagined myself to be the family’s patriarch or godfather, deserving of great respect and sought after for assistance in times of need, it now seems that I hold the position of an ATM, useful for a steady stream of cash but little more. I’ve been replaced as host, both in the ceremony and on the invites, so I’m handing over my financial responsibilities to Real Dad. So congratulations to the happy couple on their decision and their journey. My drink was all gone. “You can all let yourselves out.”
Is this self-serving? I’m expected to pay between $40 and $50 thousand for a wedding that I’m not allowed to invite anyone to. that I don’t participate in? I’m so sick of this nonsense. I’m done with both my girlfriend and my stepdaughter. Last night, I moved the money out of our joint account. This morning I phoned all the businesses I had written checks to for deposits to refund my money (she hasn’t had a job since she moved in with me). For the venue, it appears like I will lose roughly 1500, but the other vendors have been wonderful about refunds.
If you want your “REAL DAD” to give you away, sit at the head table, and be on the invitation, that’s OK; he can also cover all the costs.
9th of June, 1:15 a.m. Girlfriend and the bride have since relocated. They will live with the bridegroom. With some of the “belongings” they seized, it was very difficult to resist being petty, but now that it is finished and the locks have been changed, it is time for a drink. I find it amazing how well-liked this narrative has become, but it makes me happy that so many people believe in it. I won’t promise that I’ll make the effort to find out what happens with the wedding, but I’ll let you know if I do. According to what I’ve heard, they are attempting to “scale things back” and enlist the assistance of his parents. The day following the incident, GF damaged our relationship when I discovered that she attempted to write herself a check on our joint account. I think I’m a bigger ass than her by that point because I had already shifted money, but I could feel it coming. Just that. Thanks.”
Your other half, so to speak, won’t have changed overnight when they wake up if you don’t feel valued in a relationship, and chances are you never will!
